The poem “Praying”, by Kesha, and “Parrot in the Oven”, by Victor Martinez, are alike and different in many ways. Everyone has most likely encountered a difficult situation in his or her lifetime. Kesha and Manny experience the same kind of emotional and physical pain from an abusive relationship. In “Parrot in the Oven”, Manny’s father is abusive, making the rest of his life hard. Similarly, in “Praying”, Kesha’s boyfriend is abusive, making her experience a plethora of pain that she wants to get over. In both texts, we learn that dealing with pain of difficult challenges in life and moving on will make you a stronger and better being altogether.
A common theme in both of these texts are that in an abuse situation, more people are hurt than just one. In “Parrot in the Oven”, Manny is in an abusive relationship with his father. Manny feels as if no one understands him and longs to be respected like the kids in his neighborhood and at school. So he makes the decision to join a gang, but this turns out really wrong, and by the end of the story Manny realizes that being in a gang is not what he wants to do with his life. In “Praying”, Kesha had an abusive relationship with her boyfriend. As she says in her poem, “you put me through hell, I had to learn how to fight for myself”, this tells us how bad the situation was, and that at the end of the day, she was a stronger person in the long run. In both texts, you can see how the abuse hurt them so bad, but they got through it, and became a stronger person in the end.
While both texts show the pain that an abusive relationship can have on a person, there are many differences as well. First, an obvious one, Kesha is in an abusive relationship with her boyfriend, while Manny is in one with his father, and technically with everyone that bullied him too. Manny also took longer to cope with his pain, as he began searching for other ways to be loved and respected, like joining the gang. While Kesha simply got through it, and eventually picked up the courage to get out of the complicated situation. Kesha was also older, so it may have been easier to deal with the pain then it was for Manny, who was just a teenager. Because Manny was younger, he didn’t know what to do and it seemed to him that no one was there for him or understood his pain. That is probably why he made some poor decisions that he will regret.
In conclusion, both “Parrot in the Oven” and “Praying” are alike and different inn many ways. Both of the texts are about how Manny and Kesha dealt with the pain of an abusive relationship and how they coped with the pain. While they may be alike, they are also different as Manny and Kesha dealt with their pain in the opposite way. Despite the differences, any reader can learn from these two pieces of literature that dealing with past pain and moving on will make you stronger.